Your mom and dads relationship has always been volatile. As your dads older sister I always tried to be the voice of reason. In October 2010, before your mom and dad told me they were expecting you, i got married. I clearly remember that on my wedding day I sat down with both of them and told them they if they were going to make it work they had to do it for reals this time. No more fighting, no more arguing, no more bickering! I could've sworn I got through to them. A few weeks later your dad told me he was going to be a dad again. I was excited! I was really rooting for them to make things work. And for your moms entire pregnancy it seemed that things were going to be fine. However when you arrived things changed. You have a step brother from your dads previous relationship. Your mom started having a problem with your dad spending time with him. It caused many problems and in December 2011 they separated. It was a struggle trying to see you for a few months. Your mom accused our family of doing horrible things. Attacked my mom ( your grandma) of horrible things on a private moms group on Facebook. This went on for a few months. Then in March 2012 your mom started coming around again and we were once again allowed to see you. Despite all the things she said and accused our family o,f we decided to put it aside and start fresh. We were just happy we got to see you. Around this time your mom had a falling out with your grandmother Selena and uncle. She was kicked out of their house and her things were thrown on the street. Your grandmother (Selena) told her she had no shame. She moved in with your dad who at the time was staying with your grandma (Lupe). Despite everything she accused your grandma of and all the horrible things she said about her, your grandma never denied her access to the house. You and your parents lived with them for a few months. Then your parents got a place of their own in September 2012. Less than a week after they moved out with you, our hell began.
Since that night things have been an uphill battle. Your dad is not perfect but i can assure you he is trying to do everything in his power to do things right. Unfortunately your mom and grandmother are making things very difficult not only for him but for our family. your mom accuses your dad of ludicrous things. Made up lies. She claims he doesn't try to see you. says he harasses her family. When in reality he is obeying the court order your mom set up.
Yesterday your dad had to go to the sheriffs office because your mom was not letting him see you. Your grandmother told him she was mad at her and moved out of the house and had not heard from her in weeks. apparently that was another lie because while your dad was at the police station trying to figure out what he could do, your mom showed up with you. Your grandmother also threatened your dad, telling him that if he went to the sheriffs office she would never speak to him again or let him see you.
Damian, i hope you understand when your older that your dad is trying his hardest to be in your life. It seems that the only time your mom and grandmother are nice to us or your dad is when your birthday comes around. Your grandmother has even told your dad to try to fight for custody of you. she claims a few months ago your mom left the house and took you, when she returned that night she was drunk out of her mind and didn't remember where she left you. I just don't understand them. they turn against each other and then they team up to try to bring your father down.
I don't know what else to write at this point. it breaks my heart that we can't have a civil relationship with them for the sake of you. It breaks my heart that perhaps your dads only choice might be to just stop trying. But then your mom would have the "privilege" of saying he's a dead beat dad and abandoned you. Just know Damian that if things don;t work out and your' denied a relationship with your dad it wasnt because he didn't want to. It was because he wasn't allowed to due to your moms constant lies and attempts at getting him in trouble.
Know that we love you and we're just hoping for a solution to all this.
Since that night things have been an uphill battle. Your dad is not perfect but i can assure you he is trying to do everything in his power to do things right. Unfortunately your mom and grandmother are making things very difficult not only for him but for our family. your mom accuses your dad of ludicrous things. Made up lies. She claims he doesn't try to see you. says he harasses her family. When in reality he is obeying the court order your mom set up.
Yesterday your dad had to go to the sheriffs office because your mom was not letting him see you. Your grandmother told him she was mad at her and moved out of the house and had not heard from her in weeks. apparently that was another lie because while your dad was at the police station trying to figure out what he could do, your mom showed up with you. Your grandmother also threatened your dad, telling him that if he went to the sheriffs office she would never speak to him again or let him see you.
Damian, i hope you understand when your older that your dad is trying his hardest to be in your life. It seems that the only time your mom and grandmother are nice to us or your dad is when your birthday comes around. Your grandmother has even told your dad to try to fight for custody of you. she claims a few months ago your mom left the house and took you, when she returned that night she was drunk out of her mind and didn't remember where she left you. I just don't understand them. they turn against each other and then they team up to try to bring your father down.
I don't know what else to write at this point. it breaks my heart that we can't have a civil relationship with them for the sake of you. It breaks my heart that perhaps your dads only choice might be to just stop trying. But then your mom would have the "privilege" of saying he's a dead beat dad and abandoned you. Just know Damian that if things don;t work out and your' denied a relationship with your dad it wasnt because he didn't want to. It was because he wasn't allowed to due to your moms constant lies and attempts at getting him in trouble.
Know that we love you and we're just hoping for a solution to all this.
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